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Meanie McMeanface

I was hustling up the stairs this morning because we'd all heard the train pull in...

Apparently I wasn't fast enough for the Adonis behind me because he said, "Move it Fat-Ass!"

We made it into the train and he was standing in front of me... I said, "Hey, what did you say to me?" ... "If you can say it to my back, why don't you say it to my face."

He went through the doors into another car... A man sitting near where I stood sympathized with me and offered me a seat. I thanked him but declined... stewed a bit, then went to look for the Adonis.

Just in case you saw this guy - we got on the train at El Cerrito Del Norte about 8:45 am this morning. He was probably in his 50s - thin/fit - gray hair. Tasteful (nyuck, nyuck) black with gold stud earring - just one - long-sleeved, button up shirt and black jeans and a couple of brief cases.

I found him at the fourth car down with his back to me... I sat next to him and told him what he said was mean, that he hurt my feelings and that he should apologize...

All the while he's fumbling in his bags and I think he's going to pull out some pepper spray, a knife, I don't know what - but I'm pretty steamed, so it surprised me when he pulled out his phone.

I think he thought since I'm such a fat ass, maybe I was hungry and about to eat him... maybe he could phone 9-1-1 before I was done with my meal.

Anyway - he says, "I'm sorry."

Me: You don't look very apologetic

Him: I am, I'm sorry...

At this point my voice was cracking so I told him: I hope you have a nice day - and left.

I soooo wanted to do him some violence but it wasn't "worf it, Miss Sofia" -

I went about a car away, sat down and cried... couldn't stop. I wonder if the crying would have happened had I pummeled him. Then I thought - maybe it was just enough that he was scared and will likely be more judicious in letting his mouth write checks his butt can't cash.

Next time someone says that

Next time someone says that or tries to push by you, just trip them as they go past.

UGH. At least you stood up

UGH. At least you stood up for yourself and it didn't end badly. Good for you!! I normally shy away and stew, but if more people like you spoke up, hopefully rude #@$#%&*( will learn to keep their mouths shut.

The overall level of civility

The overall level of civility and consideration of one citizen for another has declined
to the point where it barely exists. This is by no means restricted to BART; its everywhere.
Perhaps the horrible economy brings out the worst in people, but it seems that common courtesy
is now a most uncommon commodity.

Mixed feelings on this one. I

Mixed feelings on this one. I have missed trains because some obese person in front of me can't move down the stairs or escalator fast enough, or won't observe the walk left/stand right rule. I've never called anyone "fat-ass" but I sure have thought it. One time, there was a woman so fat she had to walk with a cane and she fell on the platform and looked like a bug on her back kicking around. Why do people let themselves get like this? If you can't walk up or especially down a flight of stairs it might be time to consider a diet and exercise routine.

I've also been on plane flights where the person next to me is so fat their fat rolls hang over the armrest and into my space. It's disgusting and rude.

@ gruntled: 1st: Yes - I'm a

@ gruntled:

1st: Yes - I'm a fat ass... I run, I walk, I hike, I'm training for the Oakland Running Festival in March... - I was hustling up the stairs... still a fat ass. Why did I let myself get this way? - Who cares? - I move - and fast enough.

2nd: You've missed trains because YOU were late - not because someone stopped you from getting to the train on time. The train is for everyone, not just you, so use some common sense and know that there may be a lady/gent with a stroller, someone with luggage, someone who doesn't move as fast as you want them to - it's not their problem, it's yours.

3d: Rolls, no rolls, whatever - I'm glad you think it and don't say it - if you're perfect, good for you. That's one of those things that this Adonis needed to learn- think, then choose to keep your mouth shut - the next fat ass might not be so nice - might sit on him... so sit on the fence if you must, but you'll just get splinters in your butt.

Let me get this straight:

Let me get this straight: someone calls you a name, so you cause a scene on the train, then you follow your tormentor through 2 trains, then cause another scene, then you have a complete emotional breakdown. Have you ever considered therapy...? There is a place for fat-asses running for trains: TO THE RIGHT. Whether you're on an escalator or the stairs, if you're a fat-ass, STAY TO THE FUCKING RIGHT. Because I guarantee if your tormentor was thinner than you are -- and it sounds like he was -- then he can hustle a whole lot faster than you can lumber. So show some courtesy for your fellow commuters who don't eat as much fast food as you do: KEEP RIGHT. Oh, and find a good therapist too, because if a little name-calling triggers a complete mental breakdown, you probably have some issues beyond the ones we all have. You sound like a social worker on acid-- get real.

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Beyond the issues people on

Beyond the issues people on BART RAGE have? Wow, that's pretty bad.

Dear Digital: The break down

Dear Digital:

The break down comes of not confronting bullies like you and Adonis. I am sincerely happy for you - seriously, I mean it - that you are happy with yourself and don't let things like name calling bother you. You are AWESOME.

FYI I was on the right... and I'm still right - I'm so right, I'm red :) - Thanks for your advice about mental issues, too. You sound super smart and so helpful. A super-altruist.

I was on the right...the stairs are wide - much wider than me - and he could've gone around instead of being rude.

If he was late - it was his fault.

No social work and no acid for me either.